I was asked today, "what are the absolute musts in a mate, for you?" Now while i'm not into relationship blogging (clearly this is not the case, but it makes me sound cooler right?...) , I thought this would be a nice topic for a forum. I'll give you the short version of my answer...
Selfessness, ambition, inquisitiveness ( exchanging ignorance with someone is great ... especially when it leads to actually learning something, eventually), spontaneity and a great sense of humor. Those are mine... ( in an effort not to sound shallow, I left out, some outward sense of self. look nice pls :) )
Now when I returned the question. The response I received was, "Well, I dont look for musts... I accept an individual for who they are and adjust. If I have to adjust drastically then it wasn't meant to be.." After hearing that, I thought... HOW RUDE! Now I look like an insensitive jerk; what made u pose the question anyways ?!?! Cleeeeearly you knew I'd ask you, your opinion, and then subsequently look like one of those women they did the ABC special on. {give me some time, i'll get over it lol}
So.... what about you?
Update:
Keziah says that I should make the blog longer... so, um... I guess i'll keep talking. I'll comment on what anonymous said underneath. I guess when you're under 25, wanting someone solely because other people want them is...ok? NO , i lie. Thats a blazing conflagration of a mess... and I hope whoever it is, has major OCD issues, that you have to deal with because you are a vapid, vapid, human being. (Too much? lol)
Ok... keziah... i wrote more... happy now?
In other news... how GREAT is Randy Newman?
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LMAO... only you would post a video of randy newman after that... you are the most acceptably strange and pleasant individual i have EVER met.
ReplyDeleteSince I'm keeping this anonymous. I can say that I want other men to want my girl. I want exclusivity. If other guys cant have you and you are desirable, i'm happy. Im not looking to get married now, so, why not have someone that i can show off.
you are probably a short person!
ReplyDeletewith love,
me
Question: how do you expect someone selfless and ambitious? It's an oxymoron unless the person is ambitiously selfless...lol. In other news, lol to ur response to anonymous
ReplyDeleteMARTIN LUTHER KING WAS SELFESS AND AMBITIOUS... MOTHER THERESA! ... her too! um... PRINCESS DIANA! OPRAH! BILL GATES! ... wow.. i sound like a fool.
ReplyDeletesomeone who is working toward their educational/occupational peak, but is willing to part with a good portion of what they've attained to provide an opportunity for someone else.
ur a turd
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WEELLLLLLL, OOOOBBBVIOUSLY, I think that "accept people for who they are" crap is bull. Oh, wait...crap is bull...I was just redundant. Not everyone is super compatible right off the bat. There is always going to be SOMEthing that grinds SOMEone's gears SOMEwhere. What it really comes down to is patience, understanding, compromise, and then (dare I say it)...acceptance, for the 20% of your boo's personality that you just can't stand. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a small laundry list of what you'd like in a mate. If something is an absolute must for you, then kudos to you for being upfront and honest with yourself before getting into a relationship with someone you didn't realize you actually hated until it was too late. The end.
ReplyDelete@teeheemee .. i apologize for calling you a turd. I thought you were kezcal... shes a turd
ReplyDeletecan I be martin luther the king's turd then? works for me.
ReplyDeletei'm just sayin...cuz for some reason, I feel like Mother Teresa's turd would just be really, really foul. More foul than most.
ReplyDeletelmao @ kezcal going ham. if i can get a guy who can cook, isnt fat and has a bachelors. im straight
ReplyDeleteI want this LOL
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgyg8vEHraE
No I totally agree with what you said and add open minded and adventurous to the list and im good.
In the words of Toni Childs "you can't survive on love and Ramen Noodles." After the infatuation phase wears off there needs to be substance, otherwise you will realize there was never really anything there to begin with. If you have a list of "musts" realize that your partner will have their own list in return and you have to be able to bring as much to the table as you are demanding. Similarly, if you go to potluck and you bring roast beef, yams, turkey, stuffing, potato salad, and sweet potato pie and the other guest brings napkins or salad dressing, you would be pissed as hell that you spent all your money and this person brings their rinky dink stuff. No! You need to match or exceed what I bring and inspire me to do and be more in the process.
ReplyDeleteOh, and im not kezcal :)
LMBO @ "WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL OOOOBVIOSLY" INTRO.....SN: Lord please whatver he is,dont let him be an undercover Antoine Dodson...
ReplyDeleteAnyway after taking parts of and seeing so many relationship panels and hearing the same responses I feel a bit crazy.lol.I think sometimes you don't know what you want in a person until they present it ,in their way and then you KNOW what you don't want in the way its presented as well.If that makes any sense...I think there comes a time of compromise in any list.HOWEVER....there are SOME definite want and WANT-NOTS.....
We can want ambition...but ambition towards what?I would say I'd like someone with like minded goals.Iron sharpens iron...I hope this makes sense. :-)